The True Factors To Determining Your Success In Life
What factors should you use to determining your success in life?
Last night, I was feeling quite ill so sleep wasn’t happening.
So that led me to start reading some of Jordan Peterson’s “12 Rules of Life“.
And in true Colm fashion, my brain went completely into overdrive.
So today’s article is the birth child of last nights few hour spent staring at the ceiling.
How Are You Determining Your Success In Life?
We are often our own worst critics when it comes to evaluating ourselves.
As humans, we always strive to want more.
Be it more money, more time with loved ones, better careers, better cars, houses and material goods.
It can be quite unpleasant to always chase a certain level of success.
Yet the benchmark of success we impose on ourselves always changes.
Because as we achieve more, we keep looking upwards.
We want to keep going until we rise to the top.
Now this isn’t a bad thing.
However, it can be detrimental in the sense that it elicits a sense of dissatisfaction.
Because if we continue to focus on all the things we wish to achieve, we never really take a look at all we have done so far.
We never really take a moment to appreciate the work we are currently doing towards our goals.
And it can become a never ending pressure to keep pushing yourself.
But what do I mean?
In health and fitness, you may be chasing a weight loss goal.
Let’s say it’s 2 stone (28 lbs).
You lose 10 lbs, yet you’re unhappy because all you see is the remaining 18 lbs that needs to go.
You base your levels of success and self worth on the fact that you still need to lose 18 lbs.
When you should be celebrating the success that you have just lost 10 lbs and probable have had to buy new pants!
Or maybe you’ve decided to run a 10k.
But those first few weeks you feel like crap because 2-3km takes so much out of you.
You continue to look at how much further you need to go to reach 10km.
Instead, you should look at the fact that 2 weeks ago you were still sitting on the couch watching Love Island.
You should celebrate the fact that every single day you are moving towards your goal and away from the old you.
The Long Term Vs The Short Term
In our current society, we all want success yesterday.
We want a big bank account, flash car and beach body.
But all good things in life come the other side of hard work.
So we must match our work ethic to our ambitions.
(Unless daddy is rich and has you rolled into a great trust fund.)
So do you want to play the short term game, or work for long term success?
If it’s the latter, then you will need to make some short term sacrifices in order to secure long term success for yourself.
Or you can burn the candle at both ends, hit some short term success, gain some social validation but see it all drift away.
It’s kind of why those magic detox diets exist.
They give you that short term success, you get compliments and you feel good.
But in the longer term, the pounds slowly go back on.
You resort to old habits because you don’t know any better.
And in a few weeks/months you’re back to where you were.
Unhappy with your weight, body and confidence has fallen through the floor.
But if you play the long game, you can ensure long term success.
You learn about nutrition, you look at your current eating habits, you spend more time being active and you start lifting weights.
You invest time and money into educating yourself so you gain a lot of knowledge to aid you the pursuit of your goals.
And you take the time to work on yourself to become better than yesterday.
Start by putting one foot in front of the other, take each meal one at a time, each gym session at a time.
Because every day, you have the opportunity to do something that brings you closer to your goals, or pushes you further away.
There will be times you question everything that you are doing, but by being consistent and taking your time you will succeed in the long term.
The True Factors To Determining Your Success In Life
I’m going to break away from just talking health and fitness here.
Because in life, there are so many factors that we have to account for when it comes to determining our success.
We can fall into the trap of solely determining our own success or self worth based on how much money we have or how good we look.
Yet there are so many factors that we have to look at as a whole.
Here’s some examples.
Career – are you putting in good work on a daily basis with a view to enhancing your career, or are you spending your week wishing your life away just to make it to the weekend?
We all have the opportunity to educate and upskill ourselves if we find ourselves in a career we are unhappy with.
It’s up to us to either put in the work or accept our current circumstances.
Friends and Family – do you spend quality time with your friends and family? Have you good relationships with them?
The people we surround ourselves with can have a direct impact as to our motivations and drive in life.
So make sure you surround yourself with those who has your best interests in mind.
Personal Projects, Artistic Endeavours and Athletic Pursuits – so let’s break free from work talk.
Outside of your job, are you working on personal projects, do you partake in hobbies or are you playing sports?
Or do you choose to simply exist outside of work.
Because by expressing yourself through artistic or sporting avenues is a great way to grow as a person.
It gives you a channel to express yourself and a way to show your own talents.
Throughout childhood, we all had hobbies and projects.
But as we grow old, so-called responsibilities creep in which often leads us to abandoning them.
So make time to work on little things, things that make you happy and keep you learning as a person.
Health, Confidence and How You Feel – are you healthy?
Because maintaining your own health means you’re going to do far better in life.
You keep those doors open to adventures and new experiences.
So always look after your health so you can keep doing more fun stuff.
A quote I once heard was – “Life is a game of confidence”.
Which is very true.
The more confidence we have, the more chances of us saying yes to fun things and experiences.
You’re more prone to escaping your comfort zone and finding out more about yourself.
So make sure you do things that keep you feeling good and confident.
It will always benefit your life.
Are You A Good Person? – do you love to see others do well and succeed in life, or do you rather see them fail?
Do you support those around you, or walk away?
Whatever it is about humans, we like to support those doing well, to an extent.
But when they might possibly be getting a bit too successful, we’ll be sure to pull them back down a bit.
And it can generally be a case of insecurities because it highlights our own unhappiness of where we are in life.
“There are two kinds of people in this world, those who look at others who have accomplished things and thinks; Why them, why not me?
The other looks at those same people and thinks; if they can do it, why can’t I?”
Be the latter.
Learn from those who have a level of success you would love to achieve.
Don’t be afraid to learn from your mistakes either.
As humans, we all make mistakes.
We can choose to let our mistakes define who we are, or we can choose to learn form them and build ourselves to be stronger in the future.
Don’t Limit Your Success
Just because you don’t look the way you want right now, it doesn’t mean you’re not becoming a success in life.
Our physiques and fitness is only one factor we should look at when it comes to living a better life.
Being healthy is definitely an important factor, as poor health will surely limit you in many areas.
Be kind, be friendly and have fun too.
Eat well, be active, exercise, spend time by the sea letting your mind unwind.
Spend time with friends, family and those who make you feel good in life.
Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself, step outside of your comfort zone, do what makes you a better person and become happier.
Life is too short to spend it trying to succumb to the expectations of society.
And keep working on becoming better than you were yesterday.
Your future self will thank you.